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Hey all, this is my first time posting here. My family and I recently added a 11 week old Goldendoodle to our family. We have had her for 3 weeks and she is adjusting well, however she is very un-affectionate, she tolerates being touched for short period and then will get up and move to a corner and does not like to be held. She eats great, loves to play, doing great with basic commands, just doesn't seem to be a fan of human touch. I have to be honest and say after we got her it was clear to is that she had not been well socialized or even handled at all for the first 11 weeks. Just wondered if anyone else had experienced this and if you had any tips to help make her feel more confident with us. Thanks!!

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Comment by Tammy and Raven on December 17, 2016 at 11:32am

Raven at 1 year is the same way. Not a very cuddly dog at all. loves to play fetch, ball, tug. But not so much on the petting. her favorite time to be mellow is in the morning hours. loves to have her ears scratched and belly rubs.

Comment by CJ, Gracie, and Quinn on November 7, 2016 at 8:51am

and ...  WELCOME to the community!! :)

Comment by CJ, Gracie, and Quinn on November 7, 2016 at 8:50am

Ditto to all that has been said! However, our Gracie was sort of similar as a pup and now at 6, she still is not a cuddle-bug. She LOVES to be rubbed and scratched (especially her belly) and will pester us to do so, but she does not snuggle with us. She will sleep next to us in bed or on the couch, but never right on top of us, and if we are "too close" she moves :p That's not to say it she is not bonded to us, because that's far from the truth. There is constant interaction, and it's obvious she loves us and wants to be near us at all times--just not too near. haha! We sometimes say she is part cat! As others have said, focus on the interaction that works and don't force what she isn't liking. Have you tried belly rubs?

One more thought... getting her acclimated to touch is important. I wouldn't let this puppy time pass without conditioning her to being handled and groomed. Make is all fun and full of praise and treats. Play with her toes to prepare her for nail trimming; inspect her ears (but don't put anything into the ear) to prepare her for cleanings and maybe pluckings; get her used to being brushed and handled.  It can be very difficult to deal with an adult dog who resists all of these things. Most of all... enjoy this time... as with two-leggeds, it goes fast!

Comment by Gail, Fozzie, and Ruby on November 6, 2016 at 11:59am
My grown kids were so in love with the fact that I finally got a dog, that they would sit on the floor for hours cuddling the pup Fozzie. He actually hated being left alone. This scenario is completely foreign to me. I think both my pups may have taken after the retriever side with characteristics. So I am not surprised to hear this may be a poodle trait. I also believe we imprint ourselves on our pets over time. A positive loving home atmosphere will bring that pup around. I talk to my pups all the time, if I'm not brushing them, playing, walking, or feeding them. That interaction is reinforced. How about training treats, and praise, for a task performed well. Take the focus off cuddling a little.
Comment by Dianne and Dulcie on November 5, 2016 at 3:54pm

When Dulcie was a puppy, she loved to play and would come to us for that, but did not particularly like being petted.  We did not restrain and hold her and I was just resigned to the fact that she would not be a typical dog (that overjoyed, slobbery, lick-your-face type of pooch!). Now, at almost 5 years, she thinks she is a lapdog just like Brodie.  She tickles me, because if I am sitting on the couch with my laptop, she sticks her face over the top of it so I can't see half the screen, lol. (She wants me to move the computer so she can climb in my lap!) She still doesn't like the typical petting much, although she tolerates it at the nursing homes we visit. The reserve is a very "poodly" characteristic, and I have a friend who has a standard poodle that acts the same - doesn't mean they don't adore you, just choose the way they want to show it!

Comment by Beverly and Eli on November 5, 2016 at 3:46pm

Hang in there, not all puppies are wiggly and cuddly right away. Chesney (our Golden Retriever) was exactly the same way when we got him. He hid under the sofa for a long time, was impossible to crate train (panicked) and we also figured his socialization was lacking. But in time he came around. Eli was a much sweeter puppy but he was not a cuddler for a while either. Now he's clingy! As long as she's healthy and responds positively to play and commands, the love will come.

Comment by DonMarie & Picco on November 5, 2016 at 1:09pm

So whats your little cutie girl's name?

Comment by DonMarie & Picco on November 5, 2016 at 1:08pm

Sounds like Picco as a pup.  I got him at 3 mos old and he & siblings rarely had human contact.  I felt that grooming and bathing bonded us.  Now he ALWAYS wants pets and attention!  I agree with Kris, it'll take time to adjust.  I think Doodles are more emotional than most other dogs.

Comment by Harrison, Brodie & Kris on November 5, 2016 at 11:13am

When we brought Brodie home it took him about 4 weeks to be a cuddle doodle. Now he thinks he is a lap dog (at 98lbs)  We would sit on the floor and call him to us. If he didn't come on his own we would not grab him. When he did come we tell him he is a good boy.  As long as the pup is not snapping and being mean it just may take some time for her to adjust.  

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