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HELP!!!! My 8 month old Goldendoodle Just BIT my husband!!!

Hey everyone!  I have an 8 month old doodle named Maggie who we have trouble with on and off with behavior, but nothing terrible.  The last problem we had was that she would have out of control night time behavior, nipping and clawing and such, which has been completely resolved thanks to Jo Bill’s wonderful advice of giving her a bedtime.  We now put her to bed at 9:00, and we havent had a single problem in weeks!  So, Im coming back to this trusted source because today we had an awful incident, and I am hoping that someone will see something that I am not seeing.  This afternoon, I baked a cake for my husband before I left with the kids to run some errands.  I left it on the counter to cool and when my husband came into the kitchen a bit later to ice it, she had devoured about half of it and was still at it.  He yelled for her to get down and she ran from him and took off upstairs and when he bent down to pick her up to she bit him on the hand, and he definitely needs stitches.  I dont know what to do.  He is furious, and rightly so.  He has never done anything but be good to her, and she loves him normally, unless he tells her no or scolds her.  Then she barks at him, but never ever has shown any kind of aggression to him or anyone else.   I have never had a dog that has shown any kind of aggression whatsoever, so I am at a loss as to what I can do to get back to where we were before today.  Obviously, I know that we need to get a plan to keep her off the counters, but we thought we had her broke of that until today, so I am interested in any ideas yall may have about that too.  I am just at a loss!!!

Thank you so much for listening and hearing me out.  I dont know what to do, and I am heartbroken for my poor husband and Maggie because I dont know what the problem is or how to fix it.  


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Comment by Lois - Izzi 7 hours ago

ps a groomer will need to pick her up to a table...  you can help by picking her up to a picnic table and brushing her..   lots of time by will worthy of your time.

Comment by Lois - Izzi 7 hours ago

if I had to make a guess, I'll bet your husband placed his hand around her flank.. that is a kill shot in the wild...  The correct way to pick up a dog in that weight range is arms around the chest and rump..Please no e-collar ... she will not understand a shock at any setting.. the beginning of more problems.    On a positive side   when she is on your lap.. lots of belly and flank rubs..  I use a back scratcher all over my dogs.. they love it.  Know her response was fear..  and already forgotten by Maggie.  

Another suggestion is to teach her a "job"; sometimes they just don't understand what it is you expect of her....  use three plastic cups for example, with a treat under one of them and teach her to sniff out the correct one... make her wait until you "allow" her to go fetch... just a simple ' wait and ok"  start at two foot extending to 10/14 foot...  She will being to understand..  the Goldendoodle is so willing to please... makes a happy dog happy owner

Comment by Kellye on Sunday

That is something that I have not thought of.  The vet never has picked her up, he just examines her on the ground because she is so big I guess :).  That is definitely something I will ask.  She did go for a puppy cut, but not since because we are trying to let it grow out to give her that classic doodle beard!!   Thank you for thinking about mentioning that!!!

Comment by DonMarie & Picco on Sunday

Just thought of something.....if she goes to the groomer, would they pick her up to put her on the table?  You might want to address that if the time comes!

Comment by DonMarie & Picco on Sunday

Awwww....such a sweet photo!   So happy to hear love is in the air again!

Comment by Kellye on Sunday

UPDATE!!!  Maggie and my husband have made amends, and it seems that she has had some sort of history that we didnt know about.  Because she is so big, she was almost 30 lbs when we got her, none of us have ever picked her up or really even tried.  Of course she sits in our laps and on the sofa and everything, but picking her up is just not something we do.  She definitely has a bit of a fear about being picked up.  Mixed with her being in trouble, my husband picking her up was just too much for her.  We have been working with her on that, but now that she is 50 lbs and taller than me when she is on her hind legs, picking her up is not something that happens too often! ;)  The trainer also noted some nervous behaviors that he thought could be re-directed using an e-collar.  We are still thinking about that, but I wanted you all to know that she is doing really well and my husband and her have forgiven each other!!  Thank yall again!!

Comment by Kellye on February 12, 2018 at 1:16am

Thank you everyone for your feedback!  We have spoken with the trainer that she had obedience classes through, and he is going to come for one on one training because she did well in obedience school and has remembered everything she learned.  Her problem is definitely that she is both stubborn and fearful ...and that she likes chocolate cake like her Mom (me).  She  gets tons of exercise, so I dont think that is a problem.  We live on a small piece of land,  and she enjoys covering every square inch of it with my husband.  Now that the weather is finally warming up, we can really enjoy being outside with her.   When we took her to the Vet last he was very impressed at her obedience level for her age, so I know she is trainable.  I think I just completely panicked when she bit, i couldnt hardly think straight.  I needed some encouragement, which yall gave me.  Thank you!  She is scheduled to be spayed week after next, so maybe that will help too!!!  I will keep you posted!!  I love her to pieces, and I just want to do what is best for her.  

Comment by Waffles on February 10, 2018 at 7:55pm

A trainer is an excellent idea. It doesn’t necessarily sound like she’s aggressive, but more like she’s scared.   If you look at it from her perspective  (as a dog, not a human)  how could she possibly know she was doing something wrong ? I’m sure your husband scared the heck out of her. A trainer who uses positive reinforcement can work wonders but the whole family needs to work on things and be consistent. You can’t expect an 8 month old puppy to  train herself. Also it’s extremely helpful to take her out twice a day and give her a good workout to tire her out a bit. They have an enormous amount of energy and it has to go somewhere!

Comment by Jan, Lily & Nessy on February 9, 2018 at 8:37pm

Kellye, You really should have her spayed, unless you intend to breed her, so there are no accidental litters.   Having said that, I've never owned an intact female dog going through puberty, so cannot say if hormones have put her on edge.  Certainly seems to be a possible part of the problem.

I do think DonMarie & Picco's suggestion to schedule a one-on-one with a trainer is a good plan.  Perhaps with a repeat of basic obedience with your husband as her trainer.  It may help too.

Comment by Kellye on February 9, 2018 at 8:45am

That is great encouragement DonMarie because we got Maggie at 4 months old, so I can totally relate.  There have been many times where I thought that things she did didnt seem characteristic of the breed, but then I remembered that it would probably be different for her because of her age.  Im hopeful that she can come around because I want her to be happy, and a dog that bites just doesnt seem happy to me.  I am also wondering if it is possible that her hormones are just crazy.  She hasnt had her first heat cycle yet, and I feel like that may becoming soon???

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